For starters you should revaluate the idea of seeking advice for issues like this from faceless names somewhere in cyberspace.

You should have a nonconfrontational discussion about this with the GF to determine if she has had any inclination of his feelings. If she still desires to associate with him after that discussion....well that would be cause for you to go "Ahhh....Haaa".

Then if you must, seek out this soul less jerk (perhaps even in chuurch next Sunday) and at the very least let him know that he should use better discretion in sharing his negative opinions of others as he could some day encounter someone less understanding than you currently are.

 

Honestly the more you bring the girlfriend into this, the more trouble you create for yourself there. Don't make her feel like you're this bothered about it, chances are she'll shy away as it's nothing to her.

No matter what your relationship is, there is always another guy out there that thinks he's better and will express such to her. You'll have never ending fights if you allow something this petty to affect your relationship with her, honestly it's between you two men as nothing with what he said is her fault.

Bad call there. Handle it with the guy, let it go, petty **** has no business causing a burden on your relationship.

 

You need to back off and cool down, right now.

By pushing this issue, you are threatening your relationship with your GF, just because you found out someone talked about you behind your back. Sorry you ego's hurt. You've never talked about somebody without them being present? We do it all the time. Get over it.

If this is really an issue for you, perhaps you should talk to the pastor of your church.

Marshall