I will go ahead and start with the back story... my dad has a '67 Camaro, that I have been asking for since I learned how to talk. The car has nothing, no interior, no paint (other than super cool primer gray), no engine, no transmission, no wheels, and no rust. Earlier this year my dad finally said that he would give me the car since he knows he will never end up doing anything with it. I had recently gotten engaged and my dad told me that he would give me the car but not the title to, "protect me if anything goes wrong between me and John." As far as I have always known anything you own by prior to get married stays yours if you end up having to get a divorce, either way I know that John would never try to take something as important to me as that car no matter how bad things got because he has a car he feels the same about.

So about a week and a half ago I called my dad and he told me the Camaro was on it's way on a car hauler. As anyone would expect I am beyond excited, John needed to go out of town for some work but we had to wait to leave because we didn't want to miss the car getting here, and he had to put off the work for 3 days waiting for the car, just so we could get this in the mail.



I can't even put into words how horribly crushed I was and how angry that my own dad would get enjoyment by using something I love so much against me like that. I just don't understand how he could be so cruel.

I then wrote him a letter (because I'm unable to bring myself to actually talk to him because I'm so disgusted with him) telling him what a horrible thing he did and how his fantasy of keeping the title to that car is not going to happen. I would rather him sell it than me put time, effort, money, etc into something that I will always be scared will get used against me. I have not received a reply from him.

 

Sorry to hear that HockyGirl . The good news is, your little car hauler has SS wheels

Have a Merry Christmas in spite of your Dad's warped sense of humor.

 

What a crappy thing to do to your own daughter, joke or not, its pretty dang cruel.

Why some folks have to play games I'll never know.

 

hockeygirl-

Bummer.. I don't know the laws in Texas..

But in Fla. even just living together for 7 years, makes Everything a 50/50 dealio..In the event of a split-up..

Might want to look into that, or a prenup..

 

The last thing I would ever be worried about is John wanting the Camaro. Like I said he has a car that he feels the same way about, so just like he trusts me to never try to take that car away from him he would never try to take that Camaro from me. My dad only thinks he would be "protecting" me by keeping the title because it would let him keep the power over the car, and like I said I would rather him sell it than have that hanging over my head all the time.

 

Your dad sounds like the same kind of butt head my wife’s dad was.

But I hope for your sake he is not.

Maybe your dad has sent the Camaro body out to be ‘pimped’ like on those TV shows and it will arrive all complete, ready to drive but nothing like what you really want in a few days.

Got my fingers crossed for ya.

 

It should be very easy to secure a piece of property that is a gift or previously owned by the other. I would bet money that all you would have to do for both sides is declare in writing that both are the personal property of each individual and have it notorized and witnessed. The best method would be to take it to a lawyer and have him/her draw up a simple agreement. Actually, in this case all you need is a prenuptual agreement which is as common as the cold.
At this point, without this agreement you would have detente - meaning he has his car and you have yours, and he would never go for your Camaro, as he knows you'd go after his. However, (and this is important), things change in cases of divorce and seperation. Ask the owner of the LA Dodgers, or anyone else that you read about in the paper.
Personally, I would ignore your father's lack of intelligence or perhaps his poor sense of knowing how important this car is to you. I would discuss it with your husband and get legal advice and have a contract signed. Show it to your father and see what happens.
He should gladly give you the car unless he's just looking for excuses to keep it for himself.
Chime in 843.

By the way - this Camaro - no engine, interior, paint, - I'm not sure it's worth losing a bit of sleep over. The larger picture is seeing what you are learning about your father. If you don't go the above route, maybe never bringing it up again might be the best medicine for him.

 

You can always remind him that you will be the one picking out his nursing home. :)

 

Hhmm That's the kinda joke we would do in our family. But that is the norm for us, so we would expect it and laugh it up.

I probably would have stripped the car down, painted it grey and sent it back.
Or crushed it and said it rolled during transport.

Guess if you not used to jokeing around, it would be upsetting.

 

Never say never in divorce proceedings. All those wonderful plans before marrage can and will go for naught when splitting up assets. Been there, done that.