Great info, thanks a lot for the time. I have the wiring diagrams, but I don't have the one that tells me which pins on the actual connector correspond to pin 1, pin 2 etc. Like the image of the connector with a pinout or something. Would it be be possible to find one? or can you tell me where to start counting pin1 from on the connector? Thanks

 

Quick update: I havent tested the solenoids electrically yet because i havent had time. Although i did notice something. When we slow down on the road and car starts acting abnormal again (revvs, no motion), shifting the gear into I or L will get it crawling very slowly, and once it picks up a it of speed, shifting back into d will get it to normal. If i leave it in D and wait for it to "catch", it jerks quite harshly forward as it click in. The jerk doesnt happen in I or L, it just starts moving very slowly and goes faster. All of this happens in the sub 10mph range.